Lesson 1

 

Lesson 1

 Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other. (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 1995, para. 6)

Chapter 3, entitled “Foundational processes for an enduring, healthy marriage”, lists 6 foundational processes to help create a lasting marriage. (Duncan & McCarty, page 27)

Foundation #1 is a personal commitment to the marriage covenant. (Duncan & McCarty, page 28) Is your marriage a contract, or a covenant? A contract marriage can be broken by walking away, looking for happiness elsewhere. A covenant marriage that is founded on the teachings of Jesus Christ on the part of both husband and wife can work through the troubles that come with life. If a couple begin their relationship with the Savior as part of their daily life, they can become closer together as both strive to get closer to God.

Foundation #2 is love and friendship (Duncan & McCarty, page 30) The Proclamation states in paragraph 6 that husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other. This responsibility is listed before any other marital responsibilities. It is a cornerstone of the gospel, and the most important commandment listed by Jesus himself after loving God. Love is an extension of friendship. A married couple must always continue to build friendship by spending significant time together, working on joint goals together, and making sure to have time to be friends, not just parental partners together.

Foundation #3 is positive interaction. (Duncan & McCarty, page 31) While not every single interaction with your spouse is going to be positive (because you are both human with different thoughts), it is important to be sure that as much of your interactions can be positive as possible. Some negative things are not worth commenting on. We don’t ignore things that are painful or hurtful, but we don’t create negative experiences. That can happen when “jokes” are not funny, “teasing” is rampant, or comparisons are made to other people who maybe “do things better” than our spouse does. Just as negativity can become a habit, so can positivity. Looking on the bright side, and creating a cheerful home is paramount.

Foundation #4 is accepting influence from one’s spouse. (Duncan & McCarty. page 32) Accepting influence can also be referred to as sharing the decision-making power. You are a team, not with a captain and subordinates, but two co-captains, with equal power, intelligence, and love for each other and the children. We share our opinions, take each other’s ideas into account, and make decisions not on a veto system, nor a tie-breaker system, but on a system where if we don’t agree, we wait until we come up with something that we do agree on.

Foundation #5 is respectfully handle differences and solve problems. (Duncan & McCarty, page 33) Differences large and small come when two people come together to create a new family. No matter if you were raised in the same ward in the same small town, or if you are from different regions of the nation/ world, things come up that you never considered. Even the small issue of using toothpaste (she squeezes from the bottom, he from the middle). It can become a giant irritation, or you can create an easy solution (his and hers tubes). Many problems and differences can be handled in the same ways, easy or hard. Choose the easy whenever possible. And when things are unpleasant, offer sincere repentance and forgiveness. Start better tomorrow.

Foundation #6 is continuing courtship through the years. (Duncan & McCarty, page 34) Good things require nurturing, and marriage is no exception. No matter how much in love, or how wonderful the beginning, if the relationship is neglected, it can die a slow death. Keep the marriage alive by continuing to court each other. Go on dates, do things you enjoy together. When in the middle of the poor, early years, with small children all around going out may be very difficult. But doing something together to nurture the relationship doesn’t have to be done outside the house. Be intentional, and do something. Create rituals for yourselves, keep things alive and fresh.

Discussion Questions:

What is our foundation?

What do we need to do to improve our marriage?

Works Cited

A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed.). Brigham Young University.

Duncan, S. F., McCarty Zasukha, S. S. (2010) Foundational processes for an enduring, healthy marriage. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed. Pp 27-37). Brigham Young University.

 Lesson 2

By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners.  (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 1995, para. 7)

These lines are perhaps the most misunderstood of the entire Proclamation. What does it mean to preside? Or to provide? Or nurture? And is there really a difference in roles based on sex? How does the term “equal partners” square with this division of labor?

First, we define equality. “Equality is all too often used to mean identity; that is, that two equal things must be identical to each other.” (Hudson & Miller, page 38) Latter-day Saint theology teaches us that we are all unique individuals, with talents and abilities that are our own. “Think of all we believe to be true about the equality, both here and in Zion of men and women in God’s kingdom: equal in blessings, equal in power, intelligence, wisdom, dignity, respect, giving counsel, giving consent, agency, value, potential, authority, exalted fullness, virtue, spirituality, and spiritual gifts; equal in temporal things in Zion, and equal heirs with Christ.” (Hudson & Miller, page 38)

The idea of equal partners goes all the way back to Adam and Eve in the Garden. Eve was created as a “help meet” for Adam, after a time of being alone, and knowing that alone was no good. She was not a “helper”, but a companion, someone to be equal, or suited together. To work together, side-by-side to accomplish goals. Eve was never someone who was less than Adam, no matter how many faith leaders have twisted the message in that way.

In Latter-day Saint marriages, both parties must come together convinced of each other’s equality. (Hudson & Miller, page 41) Whether one feels superior or inferior to the other skews the relationship, and creates an imbalance. A marriage partner who feels they are above the other does not respect their opinion. They can quickly become an abusive, controlling person who creates an atmosphere in the home of dread and fear. This is contrary to the Gospel of Christ. “One of the most revolutionary aspects of the restored gospel is its ability to help us envision difference without hierarchy, distinctiveness without inequality.” (Hudson & Miller, page 41)

In our modern society, we tend to view “provide” as “dad makes money” and “nurture” as “mom takes care of babies/house”. While those definitions can happen in a family, they are not the only ones. To be honest, someone has to take care of the home and children, and (usually) someone else is responsible to bring in the means to provide for that home. However that works best for your family, is how you should make it work. Equal means that each spouse treats the other with respect and love. And that each helps the other with duties that they have decided together how to divide (or not) so that the family can run smoothly. Neither spouse has veto power over the other’s decisions, and neither feels the need to acquiesce to the other just to keep peace. All desire to show love and faith to all members of the family and to work together to accomplish their goals.

Discussion Questions:

Separately answer the following questions (on paper), then come together and discuss the definitions of these words until you come to a mutual understanding.

What does “preside” mean?

What does “nurture” mean?

What does “equal partners” mean?

Works Cited

A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed.). Brigham Young University.

Hudson, V. M., Miller, R. B. (2010) Equal partnership between men and women in families. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed. Pp 27-37). Brigham Young University.

 Lesson 3

The warm, happy marriage: cold hard facts to consider

Marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God. (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 1995, para. 1)

The chapter this lesson is taken from is titled “The Warm, Happy Marriage: Cold, Hard Facts to Consider”. Marriage as an institution has been under attack from secular society for decades. Popular press, magazine articles, even some studies suggest that marriage is an out-of-date practice, with no current function in society.

However, those who seriously studied marriage, came to much different conclusions. Many began their studies with the idea that perhaps marriage had become irrelevant. Or that divorce didn’t really have that profound an effect on children. Or even that alternatives to traditional marriage were just as good as that between a man and a woman, as traditionally envisioned. To their surprise, every study showed that there were benefits to marriage that were not understood before. (VanDenBerghe & Hawkins, page 70)

What were some of the benefits for couples that researchers have discovered about a stable, married relationship?

“Married adults are clearly healthier than their non-married counterparts”. (VanDenBerghe & Hawkins, page 71) This holds true for those living in poverty or wealth, those who have previous health challenges, and across ethnic groups. Married people live longer, live healthier, recover better from illness and surgery, and maintain their health to longer ages than their unmarried counterparts.

“Married people are generally happier, the studies find, with greater life satisfaction, lower risk for depression, and greater economic stability, all contributing to better mental health.” (VanDenBerghe & Hawkins, page 71) This counteracts the naysayers who claim that marriage is stifling and unfulfilling. Some may claim that it’s the living together that provides those benefits, but studies in Europe, where cohabitation is even more common that in the United States showed that there was a significant gap in the happiness level between those married and those living together without marriage.

What enables a good marriage to have these benefits? First, before marriage, “couples need to consider shared values and life goals as paramount” (VanDenBerghe & Hawkins, page 72) Which means that dating couples must discuss such things, and make decisions that will provide the companionship, love, and commitment that a lifetime of marriage can provide. A marriage founded and lived on real life rather than fantasy is more satisfying because it gives a couple the emotional closeness that we all need to have a fulfilling life.

Discussion Questions:

Why is marriage (rather than cohabitation) important to you?

What difference can “the piece of paper” make in a relationship?

How does a committed marriage benefit the couple and society?

Works Cited:

A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed.). Brigham Young University.

VanDenBerghe, E, Hawkins, A. J. (2010) The warm, happy marriage: cold, hard facts to consider. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed. Pp 27-37). Brigham Young University.

 Lesson 4

Parenting with love, limits, and latitude: Proclamation principles and supportive scholarship

Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness. (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 1995, para. 6)

Raising children in righteousness is one of the scariest journeys that anyone can undertake. It feels overwhelming to begin, frightening in the middle, and then looking back when all done, it feels like “that wasn’t so bad”. Because children (like all humans) are so individual, it is impossible to create one “owner’s manual” that covers every single something that will happen. However, we do have scriptures, prophets, and prayer that can guide us to seek learning and guidance to help in the journey. As Joseph Smith stated: “I teach the people correct principles, and they govern themselves” (quoted in Young, 1865, Journal of Discourses, 10:57-58).

All children need love. They need limits. And they need latitude. Children need to know that their parents love them, and not just with words. Our daily actions will show them that we care what they do, who they are with, and how they are doing in all aspects of their lives. The won’t care how we feel about actions if they don’t believe that we care about them more.

Children need limits. Not strict “do as I say” parenting, but limits within their age-appropriate lives. Parents set limits and rules for their homes, and teach their children how to follow them appropriately. They guide rather than order; apply consequences rather than punishment; and do it all with the overarching love within their home.

Children need latitude… latitude to make mistakes as well as good choices. They cannot learn to repair mistakes if they never make any. A small child may be given the choice between wearing this outfit or that one today. A slightly older child can choose from their drawer their own outfit. An even older child can participate in purchasing or making their clothes. A small example, but something that parents need to apply to every aspect of their children’s choices and lives. Is the child of an age where making a choice here will be appropriate? Then give them the choice within the limits of the family, the gospel, and their age.

This list in the chapter gives a great overview of what a child needs from their parents (Hart, Newel, & Haupt, page 105)

·       Love, warmth, and support

·       Clear and reasonable expectations for competent behavior

·       Limits and boundaries with some room for negotiation and compromise

·       Reasoning and developmentally appropriate consequences and punishments for breaching established limits

·       Opportunities to perform competently and make choices

·       Absence of coercive, hostile forms of discipline, such as harsh physical punishment, love withdrawal, shaming and inflicting guilt

·       Models of appropriate behavior consistent with self-control, positive values, and positive attitudes.

Discussion Questions:

What age-appropriate decisions are my children ready to make?

How often do I need to revisit those limits and boundaries for my children?

Are we as parents on the same page regarding love, limits and latitude? 

Works cited:

A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed.). Brigham Young University.

Hart, C. H., Newell, L. D., Haupt, J. H. (2010) Parenting with love, limits, and latitude: proclamation principles and supportive scholarship. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed. Pp 27-37). Brigham Young University.

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 Lesson 5

Parenting in gospel context: Practices do make a difference

Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, to teach them to love and serve one another, to observe the commandments of God, and to be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 1995, para. 6)

Parenting is difficult work. You start the job with zero experience, your spouse also has zero experience, and your baby… they are also new to the job. Each child you parent has a unique set of genetics, which affect them in ways you do not know. Each one has a distinct personality and will react to the world in ways that will differ from each other, and from your own way of seeing things. They will have different challenges in their life, some you have never seen before, and both of you must navigate almost blindly. But there is hope and help.

Secular research has shown the most effective way to parent children, which is in line with the scriptures and the words of prophets over decades and centuries. There are many styles of parenting, from the neglectful permissive style, to the coercive authoritarian, and a much more grounded center authoritative style. (Nelson, page 120) What is authoritative parenting?

An authoritative parent does have expectations and rules for their children. Those rules (with a few exceptions) are not “set in stone”, nor so rigid that children feel stifled by or frightened of their parents. They know that the rules are age-appropriate, with freedoms gradually granted as maturity and experience show that the child can handle those freedoms safely. Children are given leeway to make mistakes, but are not so free that it could be mistaken for neglect. The parents counsel together as a couple, and with the children so that they know what is expected of them. A child with an authoritative parent knows that the parent, not the kids, are in charge of the home, and also knows that their parents ‘have their back’ and will help to guide them into the next stage of their life. The parents seek counsel from scriptures and prophets, and from the best books (not the next trend) on how to guide their children. Authoritative parents teach and guide, they don’t preach and nag. Nor do they manipulate or use guilt to induce a child to bend to their will. They respect their children’s agency, and allow them the space to grow.

Discussion Questions:

What parenting style did I grow up with? My spouse?

How does that information affect my parenting style?

How do we create an authoritative spirit of parenting in our home, with our children?

Works Cited:

A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed.). Brigham Young University.

Nelson, D. A., (2010) Parenting in gospel context: practices do make a difference. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed. Pp 27-37). Brigham Young University.

 Lesson 6

They cannot be lost: temple covenants save families

The divine plan of happiness enables family relationships to be perpetuated beyond the grave. Sacred ordinances and covenants available in holy temples make it possible for individuals to return to the presence of God and for families to be united eternally. (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 1995, para. 3)

Temple married parents cradle their newborn in their arms with dreams of a happy life filled with milestones such as baptism, mission, temple marriage, and happily ever after. Sometimes that happens, and sometimes it does not. The divine gift of agency is given to children as well as their parents. Some use that agency to make choices that take them away from their families and/or the church and/or their covenants.

It is heart-wrenching to watch a child turn their back on everything the parent holds dear in the gospel. The pain is real. The prayers and tears are constant. You grieve what ‘could have been’ while hoping for it to happen in the future. During those times, it is important to look to gospel truths. Do you believe in temple work or not? Do you have faith that the atonement is real or not? 

The promises of the temple are real, and eternal. “Having the reassurance of prophets and apostles that the sealing power of the holy priesthood is sufficient to allow righteous parents to reclaim their wayward children” (Pehrson, Cook, & Madsen, pg. 175). We are commanded to love, always. Love the child who strays as much as they will allow. Let them understand they are still yours, and your love is truly unconditional. Pray and attend the temple for the wisdom to understand the covenants and promises that are there. Then continue to love and care for your child and pray that you can be that light for them when they are ready to return, whether it is in a year, or 10, or 40, or even in the next life.

Jesus spoke of the Prodigal Son, and that even though he spent his fortune in “riotous living”, his father was waiting and watching for him to return. And when the boy “came to himself”, father was overjoyed and embraced him without question. Jesus also spoke of the lost sheep, and how the return of the one was celebrated over the 99 who didn’t. Everyone is a lost sheep at some point in time. There is no person on earth who really is one of the 99, we all have to look to our Shepherd and be willing to be rescued.

Discussion Questions:

Do I have true faith in the promises of the temple and the Atonement of Jesus Christ?

How can I best show my love to all my family members, regardless of their church standing?

Reflect on times when you have been the “lost sheep”. How did you feel when you were rescued? How can you rescue others?

Works cited:

A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed.). Brigham Young University.

Pehrson, K. L., Cook, R., & Madsen, N. L. (2010) They cannot be lost: temple covenants save families. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed. Pp 27-37). Brigham Young University.

 Lesson 7

Supporting families across generations

Extended families should lend support when needed. (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 1995, para. 7)

“People in modern society are living longer than ever before, which is giving family members unprecedented opportunities to experience and enjoy extended family relationships” (Miller & Yorgason, page 181). In generations past, life expectancy was much shorter than it is today. While there were notable people who lived until their 80s or 90s, that was the exception. Today, it is much more common. What does that mean for families? Many more adults have their parents with them for much longer than their parents or grandparents did. Children have grandparents with them well into their own adulthood, and their children can meet and have a relationship with their great-grandparents.

Elders in the family can offer guidance and support much longer than before. What kind of support? Grandparents can have an active role in guiding and teaching children in their posterity. They can offer a first hand accounts and stories from the ‘old days’ that are captivating to someone who hasn’t lived them. Grandparents can offer support to their children when there is a crisis in their family. Either by stepping in to help with children while parents are busy with a health issue or a problem with another child. They provide an anchor to their descendants, a port in the storm of stability.

In emergencies, grandparents can become guardians of children whose parents have lost their way. They may have the financial means to help a child with college or other expenses (if that is an appropriate use of funds). Extended family should not become a defacto bank, bailing out poor choices hither and yon. But if there are true emergencies, they can provide that kind of support.

Another consequence of longer lifespan, is a longer time of feeble old age. Medical advances allow the elderly to live longer with chronic issues that would have killed their parents in their 60s. Many are manageable, and living a healthy life helps to mitigate some of that. However, just as grandparents can help the younger generations, the time may come when the youngers need to help the elders, either by caretaking or by financial support. Loving families can work all of that out in a way that helps everyone.

Discussion questions:

What is appropriate support for my extended family? Take into consideration where you and your children are situated in financial and other circumstances.

In what situations may our family be in need of support or help?

What help may a family need other than financial?

Works cited:

A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed.). Brigham Young University.

Miller, R. B., Yorgason, J. B. (2010) Supporting families across generations. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed. Pp 27-37). Brigham Young University.

 Lesson 8:

Repentance and forgiveness in family life

Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of…repentance [and] forgiveness. (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 1995, para. 7)

Repentance is one of the first four principles of the gospel. It is a turning away from sin and becoming someone new. Forgiveness is the process of letting go of hurt and anger against another (or yourself). Both processes are essential in family life, usually daily. “Repentance and forgiveness are two sides of the same coin and are frequently addressed together. For example, apologies facilitate forgiveness, and forgiveness motivates repentance” (Walton & Hendricks, page 201).

All human beings do things that need repentance. Small acts can cause hurt or anger in others. Large acts can devastate individuals and entire families. Recognizing those actions and working to repair them are essential. Making the effort to do better next time is part of the process.

Forgiveness is the internal process of letting go. Forgiving another can come with or without the other person’s repentance. It is the process of putting the Atonement of Christ into action in our hearts. He has offered to take all of our pain and our hurts and burdens so that we do not have to carry them with us. When we allow Him to take them, we can move forward. Some things are easy to forgive and forget. Others are not. For those big things that have caused life-long damage, forgiveness can be very difficult and can take a long time. An important point to remember is that forgiving someone who has perhaps literally committed a crime against you does not mean you must let them hurt you again. It means that you do not harbor hate and anger in your heart. You have given those things to the Lord and will let Him sort it out.

How do we repent? While there are some basic steps as outlined below, it can be very simple, or very involved. Large sins may require the law to step in, others just need mom to oversee, or others by yourself in prayer.

·       Recognize the sin. Admit to yourself what you have done wrong.

·       Feel sorrow for the sin. Come to God with a broken heart and contrite spirit.

·       Forsake the sin. Stop doing it, and pledge to never do it again.

·       Confess. Confess to the Lord, the person you offended, and in some cases to church authority or even the law.

·       Make restitution. As far as possible, make it right.  

(Walton & Hendricks, page 205)

How do we forgive someone (or ourselves)? There are also here some basic steps. It can also be simple, or it may be a years long or lifetime process. There is no timeline, and no rush. Reconciliation may or may not happen. You forgive for the sake of your own peace, to be able to reach a place where you are transformed, freed from resentment and pain, and to be closer to Christ.

·       Recall the hurt. To forgive you must be clear about what happened and acknowledge the pain.

·       Empathize. Try to understand the transgressor. Was it deliberate? An accident? Why may they have acted that way?

·       Offer the altruistic gift of forgiveness. Being aware of your own shortcomings, or those times when you were forgiven may bring more awareness.

·       Commit publicly to forgive. Perhaps only to one person, a friend or counselor, write a letter or in a journal your path to forgiving.

·       Hold on to forgiveness. When your thoughts return to the hurt, remind yourself you already made the decision to forgive. Remind yourself to move forward. Forgiveness is not a ‘forget’ card. Living well is the best way to keep going.  

(Walton & Hendricks, page 206)

Repentance and forgiveness can be simple for small things. Or it can be very lengthy. Whether large or small, we must remember that these processes are gifts from our Father in Heaven and allow us to become closer to Christ and understand the gospel better. They teach us humility, and a greater understanding of the atonement.

Discussion Questions:

What do I need to repent of?

What do I need to forgive someone for?

How can both of those processes provide me with needed peace in my life?

Works cited:

A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed.). Brigham Young University.

Walton, E. & Hendricks, H. M. (2010) Repentance and forgiveness in family life. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed. Pp 27-37). Brigham Young University. 

 

Works Cited

A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed.). Brigham Young University.

Duncan, S. F., McCarty Zasukha, S. S. (2010) Foundational processes for an enduring, healthy marriage. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed. Pp 27-37). Brigham Young University.

Hart, C. H., Newell, L. D., Haupt, J. H. (2010) Parenting with love, limits, and latitude: proclamation principles and supportive scholarship. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed. Pp 27-37). Brigham Young University.

Hinckley, G. B. (1995, October). Stand strong against the wiles of the world [talk]. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints General Conference, Salt Lake City. Stand Strong against the Wiles of the World

Hudson, V. M., Miller, R. B. (2010) Equal partnership between men and women in families. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed. Pp 27-37). Brigham Young University.

Miller, R. B., Yorgason, J. B. (2010) Supporting families across generations. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed. Pp 27-37). Brigham Young University.

Nelson, D. A., (2010) Parenting in gospel context: practices do make a difference. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed. Pp 27-37). Brigham Young University.

Pehrson, K. L., Cook, R., & Madsen, N. L. (2010) They cannot be lost: temple covenants save families. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed. Pp 27-37). Brigham Young University.

VanDenBerghe, E, Hawkins, A. J. (2010) The warm, happy marriage: cold, hard facts to consider. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed. Pp 27-37). Brigham Young University.

Walton, E. & Hendricks, H. M. (2010) Repentance and forgiveness in family life. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite & T. W. Draper (Eds.). (2010) Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (2^nd ed. Pp 27-37). Brigham Young University.